Breaking up is hard to do... Especially when you thought you had a genuine, authentic connection with someone. What we don't realize is that often we come together with a need-based grocery list of what we wanted from the relationship, including "good company and companionship".
As we examine what it was that attracted us to the relationship and/or the person to begin with, we may find that we came to the relationship to take versus to extend or accept. The WIFM (what's in it for me?) approach rules many a romantic/intimate relationship and once we assess that we're not receiving our fair share or that what we're receiving isn't fulfilling us we turn on one another and attack. Enough attacks and enough perceptions of being unfairly treated and one of us is bound to flee.
You've heard the excuse "It's not you, it's me." Take those words for gospel. Very, very little of what a person does is about another person. It's about their own internal struggles and desires. Break Up Coaching builds on Relational Coaching by reminding you that another's desires are not dependent on anything but their own internal calibrations, perceptions, and ultimately, path, and it brings to light the potentially confusing idea that "It's not about you, unless it's about you."
When is it about you? When it comes down to your desires, thoughts, actions, words and feelings. When is it not about you? When it comes down to another person's desires, thoughts, actions, words and feelings. Relax, we got this. And you'll be thanking them before you know it.