It’s February. Let the bombardment of all things “love” blow your mind. Firstly, I gently remind you that every thing, every person and event that is in your life right now is there because you have used your thoughts to conceive of their presence, thus attracting them to yourself as a magnet attracts iron filings. Your emotions accelerate the magnetizing of form into your space, your life. That includes this information.
There’s a quote I like to offer up to people I meet along my path: “Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists.” It comes from a book called A Course in Miracles. I ask them what their thoughts are on that idea. I get all sorts of answers. One particular individual recently replied that it didn’t make sense because, “Let’s take love as an example… At first it’s not real, then it becomes real, but if we don’t take care of it, it can disappear.” He didn’t realize he would end up contributing to my musings. But I am ever so grateful to him.
It is in this moment that I would like to offer you the perspective that there is only One Love. And it is precisely what cannot be threatened, and the only thing that actually Exists. It waits on welcome, not time. It is the only Reality. We become aware of It when we are ready to accept It as our inherent nature and identity.
Math was never my strong suit but the following equalities make sense to me:
Energy=Light=God=Life=LOVE
All are synonymous and they cannot be threatened in their Being, which according to the quote makes them real and the only things which can exist. They are all infinite and eternal and available to each of us from within ourselves. Yes, we get light and energy from the sun; yes, we get energy from the nutrients in the food we eat, but ultimately those two sources of light and energy are not enough to sustain LIFE. They’re not. If we are to apply the literalness of the quote to physical form and matter in general, everything we perceive with our five senses could thus be interpreted as “unreal”, or, an illusion.
A body without energy and consciousness flowing through it is a corpse. This life you’re experiencing now, void of love, doesn’t last very long (trust me on this one). Our beautiful bodies, with their warmth and suppleness, their curves and soft flattering angles, their smoothness and lusciousness, their sounds and movements are worthless and discardable without energy to animate and “enliven” them. It is ENERGY which we seek to receive and absorb and use when we interact with others. Love involves attention because attention energizes. In the study of vibrational science it is acknowledged that focused attention energizes the subject being focused upon.
When we love someone we pay attention to them. That attention sends them energy. Literally, we are donating electrons to whomever or whatever or we are turning our attention to. Even when we “see” the image of an individual in our mind’s eye they receive a benefit while being thought of in a positive light. Conversely, it is detrimental to them to be thought of in a negative way or in conjunction with an undesired event. They don’t have to be physically near you to feel it.
Love is:
Attention (constant).
Freedom (absolute).
Inclusion (without question).
Acceptance (without condition).
Empowerment (energizing).
While simultaneously being:
Unpretentious (without expectation of reciprocation).
Unchanging/unlimited (all of the preceding attributes without limit or end).
It doesn’t seek to control or condemn or criticize. It makes no demands and involves no sacrifices. It doesn’t “hurt” or “bite” as the Whitesnake song insists.
It is always present. It cannot disappear. It is infinite and eternal.
No amount of searching externally will bring you a source that consistently meets all of those criteria, because every thing and every body in this world is temporary, and just flowing through. Even a person who exemplifies and extends those qualities at a maximal amount will still eventually depart this world and your life. That means another body cannot be a provider of true, real LOVE.
Love is a state of Being.
It is the Source within you from which you can never be separated. And which you cannot make of another person in this world. You may extend these thoughts outward without prejudice, but expecting anything in return voids its legitimacy and results in disappointment and suffering.
Any distortion of the above concept will not fulfill you. And your search will continue unsuccessfully. You will seek and never find.
Eckhart Tolle, in his book Practicing The Power of Now, says it so simply, “Your love is not outside of you; it is deep within you. It is not dependent on some other body, some external form. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you.”
We are here in this world to perceive an impossible idea which we are all projecting into form from the minds which we are and can never cease to be. Hear me now, believe me later: we are decision-making minds that transcend this, and all time and space. We are part of One Infinite Field of all the energy that exists. We are here to “experience” the impossibility of separation. To seem to be alone and unwanted, cast aside and replaced, controlled and powerless, limited and temporary. But I guarantee you we are none of those things. We are altogether irreplaceable in the Mind That Created Us.
That’s what Love is to me. And I just play my role in It All, maybe slightly more aware than some, but ultimately no different than anyone else.
We play these roles like actors would their characters on a stage or movie set. Realizing it was all make-believe when the curtain falls or the camera stops rolling.
We use numerology and the zodiac and other methods of predicting tendencies as masks and mirrors of the characteristics and qualities we chose as souls to build upon and to make materialize in this world as part of the “character” we are developing. But guess what? You are not the character. Your identity is a field of energy with infinite vibrational potential that exists eternally. You could attach the label of “soul” to that description if it doesn’t offend you or turn you off.
To love someone is to accept their free will to have chosen the role they are playing in this world. You don’t have to agree with the characteristics, you just have to accept that it was their free will choice to play their part in this earthly “theater”. Just like it’s your free will choice to play the role you’re playing now. To love someone is to see past the body and form and behaviors and actions, right through to the Divinity that is no different than your own. They are your same. You are the self, they an other-self. To love someone is to see yourself in them, both in the potential to block the light, and in the ability to allow it maximally.
Disclaimer: the first being whom you have to love is yourself. It is impossible to “love” another when you are judging, reprimanding, or loathing yourself. Once you understand and do that, the happiness, joy and ecstasy you will feel will be indescribable. And that will radiate outwards from you and enhance every relationship you have- whether sex is involved or not. So another gentle reminder: love is not about sex. And having sex has nothing to do with love.
And that is a subject for another conversation.
All our Love,
